Some psychologists have called the soul the "inner child." The soul is like a little child that is in us. It is wise and very sensitive. Our soul needs comfort and consolation. Our soul needs to know that we will protect her from harm. (The soul is often referred to in the feminine form, such as "her" or "she.") When you get pregnant, you and others might think it was a "mistake," but the soul who has been given the opportunity to be born doesn't.
From the moment of conception, the child's soul is an active participant in forming the body she is to inhabit to fulfill her mission in life.
Throughout the entire nine months of gestation, the soul may go back and forth from her body in the womb to the higher planes of existence in the heaven-world. Each time the soul enters her body she anchors more of her soul substance in that body. As gestation progresses, the spirit, or the essence, of the soul becomes a part of the blood and the cells - a part of the brain, the heart and all of the organs.
At the moment of birth (which is very important to the soul's mission), the soul comes down the spiritual birth canal...right down to the place where the baby's physical body is prepared.
(Nurturing Your Baby's Soul, by Elizabeth Clare Prophet; Compiled and Edited by Nancy Hearn and Dr. Joyce Bennett, Summit University Press, 1998, pg. 100-101.)
Abortion is the termination of a pregnancy... resulting in... the death of the embryo or fetus*. Both medical and surgical abortions destroy the life of a developing human being and deny a soul the opportunity to continue her journey. (*By permission. From Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary © 2002 at Merriam-Webster.com by Merriam-Webster, Incorporated.)
Reincarnation, which is the rebirth of the soul in a new human body, is the opportunity given to all of us to "get our act together," so to speak.
If a soul is aborted, it could be a very long time before it is able to reincarnate (be born again) and connect with the specific people it needs to in order to fulfill its personal mission. We all need to be born at the right time and in the right place, even though it may not seem to be the "right time" to a lot of people.
This also applies to adoptive parents and the babies they welcome into their families.
You and your boyfriend may or may not be soul mates. Soul mates are kindred spirits special friends or lovers who might share the same passions or interests. While soul mates may have a lot in common and work well together, they don't necessarily look alike.
Sometimes, people confuse soul mates with twin flames. A long time ago, your soul was created in the heart of God. You were not created alone you were created with your twin flame, a very special soul with whom you share a unique mission. While you may have more than one soul mate during your life, you have only one twin flame.
Just because you and your boyfriend might be soul mates, does not mean that you should have children together.
No, it is not bad karma to give the baby up for adoption. Karma is the term that comes from the ancient Sanskrit language, that basically means for every action there is a reaction and there are always consequences for the actions you choose. If you are pregnant and do not want to keep the baby, adoption is a responsible option and you don't need to feel guilty about it. If you choose adoption for your baby, it is important to remember that you are giving your baby the opportunity for life and for the fulfillment of her or his personal mission. That is truly a gift of love.
First, do not be hard on yourself or on anyone else who might have been involved in the abortions. Often, when we become more aware of the spiritual side of life, we regret some of our past choices and wish we had made different decisions. Second, you might consider getting the help of a professional counselor to understand how to forgive yourself and to help you heal so that you can get on with your life and fulfill your own special mission.
Prayer is a common form of communication with God, the angels and with one's higher self or higher power. You might consider praying for the baby's soul so that it has the opportunity to be born again. Or, you can write a letter to the soul of the baby that was aborted and ask for forgiveness. Then pray to the angels to take the message from your heart to the baby's soul and bury the letter and plant a flower on top.